Holistic Centre for Body, Mind & Spirit

January 2012

Case study – Eve

All of the case studies you will read here are the experiences of real Anam Cara clients. They have asked for their real names not to be used to protect their privacy but all of them wanted others to know that problems can be overcome, whatever they are.

TURNING SAD INTO HAPPY

I am in such a different place now to where I was last year.

I have Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). I’ve always hated the cold and dark. The winter months had become a long, difficult, painful period.

It was only when I started speaking to Sonia that I realised and understood that my condition and the thought processes that fed into it were linked to my childhood experiences. This was a real revelation but one that made total sense – events in childhood really do inevitably affect us. Without a doubt, seeing Sonia has helped me with my SAD.

A family affair

My daughter had actually been seeing Sonia for a number of years before I went. We had been through a lot as a family and Sonia’s work with my daughter helped tremendously. With her brother being treated for an on-going illness and her sister having autism, it was difficult for her and she often ended up doing the looking after rather than being looked after.

We’re a strong family and we wanted to support her, which is why we encouraged her to go to Sonia, who really helped her accept the situation and learn strategies to deal with it.

Having seen how my daughter benefitted, I was happy to go to Anam Cara to try and deal with my issues too.

Dealing with the past

Everyone’s childhood experiences influence their later lives and I’m no exception. I’m an only child and my Mum and Dad were always quite busy, meaning I was left with other people a lot. My Dad was - and remains – aloof and distant, and it was during these early years that the all-embracing feeling of coldness and isolation became established.

I did spend a lot of time with my Grandma, who I loved very much and who gave me love and warmth in return. But she died when I was ten and I never really had the chance to grieve that loss. No-one ever asked me how I felt about it.

Working with Sonia has given me the chance to explore the past and discover what triggers these feelings today. (It hasn’t always been easy - I remember cancelling an appointment and Sonia getting on the phone to me to persuade me that I really did need to come. She was right, I did.)

It’s only from understanding why I feel the way I do now that I have been able to make changes. The SAD is so much better than it was, meaning I have been able to live a different life. It’s not a miracle cure or anything – I still have dark days but not as many. It’s just about finding anything that gives me that feeling of warmth and light – both mentally and physically.

I’ve learnt to look at the world differently. I always try to remember that no matter what the weather is like and how I’m feeling, Spring will arrive. Of course, we’ve had a mild winter so far so the real test is yet to come.

The bottom line is, Sonia has given me a voice and made me realise I deserve to be heard. She has helped me take charge of my SAD. I am feeling much better and I’m just so grateful for that. If I hadn’t done anything about it, nothing would have changed.