Holistic Centre for Body, Mind & Spirit

April 2012

Case study – Angela

All of the case studies you will read here are the experiences of real Anam Cara clients. They have asked for their real names not to be used to protect their privacy but all of them wanted others to know that problems can be overcome, whatever they are.

REBUILDING MY LIFE

Two years ago, I was feeling depressed and stuck because my life wasn’t going anywhere. I had already been through a period of seeing Sonia a few years previously, when I was 20 and going through a rough stage. I had stopped going because I thought I didn’t need to any more but it became apparent that although I had started my journey, I certainly hadn’t finished it.

Many of my issues arose because my childhood had been so disrupted by a series of major operations on my spine. I really missed out on my younger years as my life revolved around these operations and their consequences.

As surgeons had to rebuild my back, so I had to rebuild my life.

I never really had the opportunity to discover who I really was and that has been a real focus of my work with Sonia. You have to know who you are and be comfortable with it in order to work out what you really want in life.

I have always been very self-critical too, and Sonia taught me to be kinder to myself. I used to be very quiet and timid, and confidence was just an act. Now I feel genuinely confident in myself and content with who I am, not worrying about what other people think. Previously, I had always believed there were certain things I just couldn’t do but I’ve realised I can do whatever I put my mind to.

I have also learnt to shrug off other people’s fears and insecurities. People do pass on their feelings and fears – whether they realise it or not – but I no longer pick them up and take them on myself.

My behaviour is so different now and I’m much more emotionally intelligent; I just know how to manage myself. It’s empowering to be in charge. Now I’m even considering training to be a counsellor – that’s how inspiring this journey has been.

I’m still a work in progress. I still get worried and a bit stuck and sometimes I’ll go back to Sonia for a couple of sessions – there’s always something to learn.